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Martha Tessmer on NBC Nightly News

Last night my friend Martha Tessmer appeared on the national NBC Nightly news. She saves lives by sharing her son Donovan’s story for Impact Teen Drivers. Donovan died in a distracted driving accident in Madera, California the summer before his senior year in high school. For the last three years, I have been photographing Martha, the support group she founded and more recently Impact Teen Drivers.

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Martha and her group has had a larger impact on my life than I have had on her extended network. Even if I could measure my impact, I would feel uncomfortable claiming any success. Parents have lost children and I have documented how the community supports each other. On my previous blog, I wrote how ties symbolize connections . Some people measure their self-worth by the strength of their LinkedIn connections. Others try to change perceptions by changing ties.

Humans are connected and one tragedy often affects many people.

Tragedy can also bring unanticipated gifts.  Since today is my birthday I remembered the second photo in the slideshow when I woke up this morning. I have received more than I have giving Martha and her extended group. I appreciate my own children and friends more, because I remember that I could lose them any moment. Every day is a blessing… a gift.

Why do some people suffer, even though they have so much?  How can Martha continue to give? I suspect that most people do not give enough. Instead of giving until it hurts, we must give until we realize we have enough. Thank you to all who have giving to me. May I continue to give until I realize I have more than enough.

 

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Watch the two NBC Nightly News clips about Teen Impact Drivers

Martha Tessmer’s Interview

Distracted Driving Feature

 

 


Oakland May Day Education

As a former Oakland school teacher with two children in the Oakland public school system, I can sympathize with the families who protested on May Day. Five OUSD schools will close next year; communities will be displaced. Children will be forced to attend different schools.  If our Spanish immersion public school were closing, I would be protesting too. Instead, Melrose Leadership is moving into one of the “closed” schools and a charter school is moving into our current site.

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Urban school districts must balance many unfair choices. School closures seem especially unfair since the disruptions will ripple  throughout the district for years.

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Protesters cause disruptions, sometimes unintentionally. As the photo above illustrates, disruptions create confusing messages. To the left, a person looks into the trash while a man blocks the word “Fe, leaving the message “Save Santa.” In March, some protesters disrupted a school board meeting, but their message confused potential supporters.  The disruption affected our school also, postponing our new parent orientation and other planning for our eventual move.

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Slide Show

Two hours after the May Day education rally began, Melrose Leadership Academy hosted our new parent orientation.  New Melrose families are already participating in our culture. Parents, many who do not speak English, are involved in their children’s education before children start school. In a few years, Melrose Leadership has outgrown its current site and we are forced to move. Since MLA is a public school, we have followed the school closures closely. We hope the entire community will minimize the disruptions to the the students, families, teachers and surrounding communities affected by closures. At the same time, the Melrose community is not waiting for Superman or Santa. We are quietly building a model urban public school.


Vapiano Restaurant – Washington DC

About three years ago, I changed my diet. I forgot how much I enjoyed restaurants until my recent visit to Washington, D.C. when I ate at Vapiano three times. The last two times I photographed the chefs.

In 2011, during a family visit to Washington, DC, my wife and two children found Vapiano.  My kids still remember it. When I visited this year for a late dinner, the atmosphere was more energetic. Perhaps the “European lifestyle” encourages families and young adults to enjoy the same restaurant.  I love the healthy food, happy chefs and open light.

Light is important.