Last night my friend Martha Tessmer appeared on the national NBC Nightly news. She saves lives by sharing her son Donovan’s story for Impact Teen Drivers. Donovan died in a distracted driving accident in Madera, California the summer before his senior year in high school. For the last three years, I have been photographing Martha, the support group she founded and more recently Impact Teen Drivers.
Martha and her group has had a larger impact on my life than I have had on her extended network. Even if I could measure my impact, I would feel uncomfortable claiming any success. Parents have lost children and I have documented how the community supports each other. On my previous blog, I wrote how ties symbolize connections . Some people measure their self-worth by the strength of their LinkedIn connections. Others try to change perceptions by changing ties.
Humans are connected and one tragedy often affects many people.
Tragedy can also bring unanticipated gifts. Since today is my birthday I remembered the second photo in the slideshow when I woke up this morning. I have received more than I have giving Martha and her extended group. I appreciate my own children and friends more, because I remember that I could lose them any moment. Every day is a blessing… a gift.
Why do some people suffer, even though they have so much? How can Martha continue to give? I suspect that most people do not give enough. Instead of giving until it hurts, we must give until we realize we have enough. Thank you to all who have giving to me. May I continue to give until I realize I have more than enough.
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Watch the two NBC Nightly News clips about Teen Impact Drivers




